Wednesday, March 11, 2009

Defending Your Writing

I got into a scuffle with an associate writer [don't ask me what that means. Really, the person was practically a stranger who happens to be in a writing group I belong to. As writers, personally, i feel we should be able to relate on some level, making us associates]. The person called what I do, as a romance writer, juvenile and laughable. Perhaps this person was talking about romance novels in general, but in essence this person can't possibly mean that the work we do as writers is at all meritable. This writer was, in fact, rude.

If you've been keeping track of my crappy week, you know I wasn't just irritated, I was ticked...

and I lit into her. Respectfully and as nicely as possible. This person baited me--perhaps, unintentionally --and I got hooked. The poor thing probably didn't know what hit, all my Irish fury in one short email [okay, it was more like medium to long...and there were two, because the writer refused to see the error of the rude comments]

Do I feel bad? My mother once told me, it would never matter if I were right or wrong, as long as I was the one yelling, I would be the one apologizing. So, yes. I apologized for some indiscretion...

So, tell me. Do you find yourself defending what you do? What steps do you take to be professional and reasonable when faced with....yuckiness? How does it affect your writing...your day? [my day seemed long, but I did get some very good work done on revisions. i just know i could have done more, if I'd ignored my instinct to be protective and possessive.]


  1. Oh my goodness. I can't believe someone would have the nerve to say something so rude. It's so hard to step away from an attack like that esp. if your irritated to begin with. I hate confrontation. But like you, I would have firmly put them in their place...then apologized. Sorry your having a ruff week! Sending you some big hugs!

  2. I haven't had the opportunity to defend what I do yet. I've gotten some strange looks among my friends, but for the most part, they're very supportive. They're a little hesitant to agree with what I do (mainly because some Christian's consider any type of romance pornography - which I consider ill-informed and wonder if they've ever even read one?) but I know what I'm writing isn't pornography so I try to look past that.

  3. No, I haven't had to defend it, although I am sure the time will come. To a certain extent though, I just try not to let otherp people's ignorance bother me too much.

  4. I am sooo tired of people belittling romance and I can't believe she said that. I remember when I told two of my friends that I was thinking of writing it, they said "why would you want to write smut like that?" of course they know better than to say anything now. Good for you for saying something back. Seriously. I wish I could. My problem is that I can never think of a good response until two hours later. lol

    On the other hand, I admit I am still slightly embarrassed by the thought of my family reading the more intimate scenes in my books!

  5. Unbelievable Betty! Seriously, that is uncalled for. No matter what genre you write, there should never be any belittling of others work. being a writer is a lot of work and we put our hearts and souls into it. No one said she had to like a particular story but to make a comment on that level whether directed at an entire genre or on a more individual basis is way out of line.

    K getting off my soap box (and I am taking it with me because I may need it later if i come back to rant some more.)


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